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REALITY BYTES | real talk about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age

BACK FOR AN ALL-NEW SEASON! Reality Bytes is a comedy podcast about love in the 10s, hosted by three friends with different relationship statuses: Courtney Kocak (long-term relationship), Sofiya Alexandra (married, impending mom) & Dave Rankin (chronically single). A big part of being a good partner (or attracting one) is working on yourself, so get excited for deep but hilarious self-help dives. Tune in every Wednesday for fresh episodes! For on-air advice, send your questions to realitybytespod@gmail.com.
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Aug 15, 2018

For the 5th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian & Grindr meme god Zach Noe Towers to discuss his new LGBTQ standup special OUT on Stage.

We chat about Zach's (& Dave's!) high school a cappella group, being such a dreamboat he had a legit fan club, his type, his transition from twink to otter, gay nomenclature, dating on Grindr, the obsession with masculinity & repressed misogyny & homophobia within the gay community, little v. big spoon preference, choosing career over a relationship, the effect of seeing monogamy modeled successfully & sugar baby fantasies – plus we talk about trying to find personal space when you live with your partner in a tiny apartment.

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Aug 8, 2018

For the 4th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian & chanteuse Scout Durwood to chat about her new musical comedy album Take One Thing Off.

Our conversation runs the gamut, touching on topics including: the history of burlesque, Dita Von Teese, solving a 6-year mystery for Dave, testing your sexuality, lesbian clothes swapping, body shaming your partner (don't do it!), the correlation between homosexuality & intelligence, pansexuality as a universe baseline, breakups, learning to let go, turning heartbreak into art, the lost art of setting up single friends, marriage, monogamy & acknowledging that most relationships end – plus Sofiya fills us in on their search for a surrogate.

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Aug 1, 2018

For the 3rd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome relationship coach & author Matthew Solomon to discuss his new book Man School: Relating with Women in the #MeToo Era.

We chop it up about the "actually" guys, the emotional labor of explaining the #MeToo movement to men who don't get it, the friend zone, how to handle & reframe rejection logically, the safety factor for women, why toxic masculinity hurts boys/men as much as girls/women, the danger in perpetuating gender roles, redefining what it means to be a provider, chivalry, tantra, magick with a "k" & so much more!

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Jul 25, 2018

For the 2nd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & host of the Ignorance is #Blessed podcast Jessica Michelle Singleton to talk about her new solo show Codependent Arising, which will be playing at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival August 2nd through 26th.

We get into her last horrible breakup, the Eat Pray Love moment that inspired the show (going on 10-day silent meditation retreat), breakups in general, growing up with an alcoholic parent, abandonment issues, codependency, the quality of road dick for female comics & self-imposed celibacy (sort of). 

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Jul 18, 2018

For the 1st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, along with new co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome relationship self-help gurus & real-life married couple Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola to discuss their new book How to Keep Your Marriage From Sucking.

Greg & Amiira are also the bestselling authors of He’s Just Not That Into You, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken & It’s Just a F***ing Date. They drop so much tried & true wisdom in this episode – it's a must-listen to set yourself up for wedded bliss!

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Feb 14, 2018

*We apologize for the delay in releasing this final episode. There was an issue with Wade's sound that we were hoping to fix, but alas, this is the best we could do. Also maybe we didn't want it to be over. ;) Enjoy!

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 22nd (& final!) episode of season 3, the duo are thrilled to welcome their significant others, comedian & Who's Your Sign? podcast co-host Julia Loken & restaurateur Wade McElroy, to discuss meet cute stories, early relationship misfires, the monogamy vs. boyfriend/girlfriend conversation & what it's like when your partner has a sex & dating podcast. 

This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box).

And if you like good eats, check out Wade's restaurants: Horsethief BBQ at Grand Central Market, Cafe Birdie in Highland Park & – coming soon – Ma'am Sir in Silver Lake.

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Feb 7, 2018

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 21st episode of season 3, the pair welcome actress Joy Nash (Dietland, Twin Peaks) for a deep ep about the lessons death teaches you about life, why it's so important to nurture a great relationship with yourself, dating app fatigue, her ideal beau (rhymes with Mavid Marber) & her amazing Dietland casting story – plus Courtney & Steve share their high school sexploits.

This episode is brought to you by FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box).

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Jan 31, 2018

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 20th episode of season 3, the duo chat with porn actor & debut author Logan Pierce on his new book of autobiographical fiction Between the Sheets: Rise of a Working Stiff (under the alias J.R. Verlin), why he chose to use a pen name, the 1st time he saw sex onscreen, how he took practical steps to accomplish his dream of becoming a porn performer, moving to Hollywood, what happened when his parents finally found out, why he's found it easier to date within the industry, meeting his current girlfriend on-the-job, the widespread use of Viagra on porn sets, what it's like to bomb as a porn performer, society's incorrect stereotype of women in sex work, his role as a male cheerleader & how he keeps a lid on objectifying women, why he decide decided to write a book about his experiences in porn & his favorite part of the book (hint: gang bang) – plus Courtney & Steve talk aging, forgiveness & masturbation habits.

This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast.

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Jan 24, 2018

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 19th episode of season 3, the pair welcome comedian & writer Riley Silverman for a great chat about growing up with a lack of a queer conversation, crossdressing at a young age, shifting on the Kinsey scale post-transition, the crucial role of transgender women of color in the Stonewall riots, what it was like to wear a dress in public for the first time, being a standup comic coming out "on the job," dating a fan, the long journey to a swift shift in media inclusivity, the timing factor in relationships & no-fault breakups – plus Courtney & Steve talk period sex, mismatched libidos & the worthwhile work of a relationship sex.

NOTE: Riley's gender confirmation surgery was unfortunately cancelled at the last minute by her insurance company - do better insurance companies!

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Jan 17, 2018

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 18th episode of season 3, the duo chat with former host of Dinner and a Movie & current host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour, Paul Gilmartin, about what inspired him to start the hit podcast, how to be a good partner to someone struggling with depression, abusing drugs & alcohol & the crutch of self-medication, how suicidal thoughts at the height of his success made him realize it was time to get help, intimacy issues & emotional incest, getting sober & dealing with divorce – plus some of his favorite episodes of his show.

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Jan 10, 2018

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 17th episode of season 3, the pair chop it up with filmmaker, photographer & musician Tao Ruspoli (who also happens to be the son of an Italian prince & the ex-husband of Olivia Wilde) about his new documentary Monogamish, featuring Dan Savage, Esther Perel, Stephanie Coontz & many other prominent figures in that field. We deep dive into the project's conception, his interesting childhood, different shades of non-monogamy (open relationships, polyamory, etc.) & how to manage the paradox of monogamy – plus Courtney & Steve discuss the Lena Dunham/Jack Antonoff split.

This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box).

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Jan 3, 2018

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 16th episode of season 3, the duo welcome photographer extraordinaire Maggie West back to the show for her 3rd interview – except this time she brings her bangin' hot sexbot Luci 6000, created for a holiday installation at the Museum of Sex in NYC, on now through February 15th. We talk the overhyped millennial sex slump, smartphones as a breeding ground for casual coitus (or not), media satire, Luci's little black book & how pretty much everyone is sprung on the idea of robot sex – plus Luci shares her pro sexting tips.

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